You’ve got yourself a nice little harness and a fine-looking dildo. But how do you make the most of this combination? Moreover, how do lesbians have strap-on sex in real-life? No worries, we’ll explain everything. We’ll walk you through the ins and outs of hot lesbian intercourse in no time.
Get Used to the Harness
Trying out new clothes and styles is always a risk. Hence, it’s better to try it on while by yourself. That way, you’ll get to know how it looks on you, and more importantly, how it feels. The same goes for trying on a harness the first time. You want to make sure you understand how the buckles work and adjust them to your body.
Next up, attach your dildo to it. Some might find it better if their silicone cock sits lower than the actual male’s penis. Run around your house and do your chores while wearing your harness and silicone cock. You should make yourself comfortable and think of it as a natural extension of your body between your legs.
Some girls enjoy going the extra mile and wearing the harness under their clothes. And if you feel the same, it’s all-important to find which clothes will work best with it. Why? Well, you’ll need to adjust to this new bulk between your crotch. So, some jeans or skirts won’t work well with a dildo prowling underneath them.
Still, you might feel a bit confused. You know, gender identity and all that stuff. But don’t worry, it’s all completely normal. Take your time and settle down with this new way you go about your life. On the other hand, you might assume this new role from the get-go.
Start by Having Sex With Yourself
Getting a harness and a dildo and going straight for your partner isn’t the brightest of ideas, you know. The reason is that you want to get to know your toys before any real contact with another human being. It means masturbating while alone. That way, you’ll get a sense of how the toy feels inside your partner’s body.
Lesbian sex with a strap-on dildo is a bit trickier than a male fucking his lover. How so? Well, the dildo isn’t your body part, no matter how hard you make yourself believe it. Hence, it’s essential to understand how it works on yourself before you begin to please your girlfriend afterward.
Try experimenting with angels, intensity, and overall style. Should you go lower or higher, slower or harder? There are so many little details that you need to take into consideration before you fuck your lover’s brains out. Think of it like it’s training before your big match, and the dildo is your Mr. Miyagi.
Warm-up Together
So, you’re ready to use your strap-on and harness with your partner? Okay, slow down a bit. You need to warm up with one another before you go all out mimicking lesbian couples you saw last night while watching porn. Using lube is a must, and here’s how you should do it.
Apply lubrication on your fingers and start fingering her first. The point with your fingers is to equal the girth of your dildo, so use all five if you need to. This way, you’ll prepare her for what’s about to come next. Finger her with lube until she feels she’s ready to take it. During fingering, enjoy yourselves like you usually do (kissing, deep breaths, and all that).
Next up — dildo time. Lube the toy and add more of it to her vagina too. After that, start to slowly penetrate her, as there’s no need to go all out just yet. So, slow, gentle, and gradually up the thrusting and the intensity. Doing this, you’ll adjust her to penetration and begin to get the hang of the whole sexual activity.
You might feel strange at first since you’re not going to feel all that much going on with your body. Focus on your partner’s body, deep breaths, and eyes. Allow her to enjoy herself and absorb her body movement, and you’ll begin to understand what it’s like to be on the other side of penetration.
Try Different Positions
The best thing about penetration sex is that you get to explore all sorts of positions with one another. From doggy style to spooning, it’s all possible with a harness and a strap-on penis. Hence, we strongly suggest that you give all sorts of positions a chance once you’re ready to give this form of sexual intercourse a go. Here’s a couple of positions you should try first.
Although missionary is somewhat vanilla when it comes to sex, it’s great in so many ways. For instance, you get to look your partner directly in their eyes and see all sorts of expressions while they enjoy the baton between your legs. It also allows for the two of you to kiss one another all over your lips, cheeks, and neck. Be sure to try it.
Another great option is to do it from behind. You know, doggy style. But what makes it great for lesbian strap-on sex is that you can turn your dildo around (180 degrees) and make the curved tip of the silicone penis stimulate her G-spot if it’s pointed downwards. And if you stray away and fuck a guy who enjoys it, you can arouse his prostate anally too.
Still, you can try cowgirl, spooning, and all other positions once you get the hang of it. But if you get tired since using all your muscles is a part of penetration sex, stop and allow her to give your dildo a blowjob, this toy from lovegasm should do the trick. Sure, you won’t feel it exactly, but it will allow you time to relax and gather strength as you watch her lips caress your silicone dong.
Don’t Forget to Use Your Hands!
Using a strap-on doesn’t mean you shouldn’t combine it with your hands. Just like in heterosexual intercourse, you can do all sorts of extra things with your bare hands. For example, use them to rub your lover’s clit or pinch their nipples. Also, feel free to do the same with your body while penetrating your partner.
And in case you’re using a strapless strap-on (underwear style), and if it’s not high-quality, you’ll soon realize it’s better to have a firm grip over your silicone penis while you plow. Furthermore, use your hands for eventual double penetration (your strap-on goes into her vagina, and your hands finger her ass). After all, the possibilities are endless.
Remember, the Goal Is for Both of You to Be Satisfied After
It’s essential to remember that lesbian strap-on sex is about both partners. Just like with any other couples’ sexual activity, by the end of it, both you and your lover should feel like you got something from it. So, we suggest that you swap the harness, provide oral sex to one another, and even go into anal play.
There’s no point if only one of you feels good once it’s over. So, talk about all the possibilities you can do together as true lovers. Incorporate some light BDSM stuff if you enjoy it. This way, you’ll capitalize on the looming Dom/sub exchange between the one with the strap on and the other on the receiving end of it. Lastly, remember to have fun because sex is all about enjoying our bodies.